Who Said Setbacks Were Stops Signs?
One movie that I particularly like was Forrest Gump. Forrest Gump had this saying “Life IS like a box of chocolates…you never know what you gonna get” and I believe that he was right. In a box of chocolates, there can bea many assorted flavors that are sweet, chewy, and sometimes nutty. We may not even like all of the chocolates in the box, but we have to deal with them.
There are many words to describe what happens when we don’t get what we want. The most common term used is called “failure”, but even that word is used in the wrong context most of the times. So, we opted for words like “setback” and “stalled.”
It does not matter what you want to call it, these are the road bumps in life. If life was always smooth sailing, we’d be pretty poorly equipped people who could not handle anything that was remotely different from what we had expected. The first rough moments we encountered, we’d probably be carried off in a strait jacket.
Think about this…
Have you ever seen the hands of a farmer? His skin is wrinkled and dark from long winters and blistering summers. On his palms are thick areas of skin from wrestling with ropes and equipment. Those calluses form in response to his work so that the next time, his hands will be prepared or a little tougher for dealing with the ropes.
Setbacks in your life are meant to function in the same way. One area where people experience setbacks is weight loss. Oh, the stories people could probably tell. When the scale creeps up, we are mobilized to dig in our heels and work harder. Or, are we?
With the proper help, we will bounce back. Setbacks can beat us down to where we don’t want to try anymore. It is hard to make it alone, but having someone else along for the ride can soften the road bumps and keep us moving in a positive direction.
Some setbacks require the buddy system to overcome. The buddy can be a friend, family member, or a counselor. Their job is to be a sounding board for you. If needed, they offer sound advice to get you going again. This person is your counterweight to keep your life in balance when it threatens to tip one way or another.
Part of bouncing back from a loss or setback is putting the situation in proper perspective. You lost the race because you didn’t practice enough, or the other racers were better. Counter that setback with more practice. Even ask for tips from other racers. Look to the positive side for answers to setbacks. Write out a list of positives and negatives if you have to.
Would it feel good to give up? Of course it wouldn’t. You’d always regret never finishing what you started and there will always be thoughts in your mind of what could have been.
Getting back in the saddle as soon as possible is the key to regaining your confidence and the will to try again.
Never Allow Your Setbacks To Become Your Stop Signs
